It seems to be anniversary season. Lots of family and friends have been celebrating wedded bliss during the past few weeks. In fact, my husband Nick and I are coming up on our 29th in a couple days. Not quite a milestone, but still something to be acknowledged.

There are resources to help husbands figure how to commerate those years of marriage. I’m all in favor of ways to take the guesswork out of shopping, but these lists, for the most part, delay the good stuff until many decades of being Mr. & Mrs. have passed. 

In spite of the fact that convention says otherwise, over the years — whenever possible — I’ve vigorously suggested to my husband that every anniversary should be a diamond anniversary. To that end, I’m an advocate of moving diamonds way up on the list.

Nick claims that traditional gifts like linens, wood and clocks are the way to go. If you operate with this mindset, just hang around until your 48th anniversary — there’s some groceries in it for you!

I was disappointed that there is no traditional gift suggestion for the 29th anniversary. The modern idea is furniture. Just what I want, a new couch.I think  Nick was hoping for golf clubs. Somehow we agreed on granite countertops. Not that I’m complaining by any means. Granite is a sturdy substance and signals a strong foundation — one that comes with 29 years of love and compromise.

But still I ponder why is there such a long wait for diamond gift-giving? Those gems don’t show up on some of these lists until the 60th anniversary.  I say give her diamonds early and often. The monthly payments alone will keep you together.

That’s why I continue to promote my “every anniversary is a diamond anniversary” concept wherever and whenever I can. And you can help by spreading the word.

But if you’re married to a traditionalist or if you’re just curious about what the lists suggests, here’s a sample of Traditional, Modern and Jewelry Anniversary gift ideas.

Of course, a night out and a champagne toast are always in good taste.

Anniversary| Traditional| Modern |Alternate gem stones

1st | Paper | Plastic, Clocks| Gold Jewelry
2nd |Cotton | China, Calico | Garnet
3rd| Leather | Crystal, Glass | Jade, Pearls
4th | Fruit, Flowers | Linen, Silk, Nylon | Blue Topaz
5th | Wood | Silverware | Sapphire
6th | Candy |Iron, Wood | Amethyst
7th | Wool, Copper | Brass, Desk sets | Onyx
8th | Bronze, Pottery | Linens, Lace |Tourmaline
9th | Pottery | Willow  Leather | Lapis Lazuli
10th | Tin (Pewter) |Aluminum | Diamond
11th  |Steel | Fashion Jewelry, Turquoise
12th  |Silk | Linen | Opal, Jade
13th | Lace | Textiles, Furs |Citrine
14th |Ivory | Gold | Opal
15th | Crystal | Glass, Watches | Ruby
16th | ——| Silver holloware | Peridot
17th | —— | Furniture | Watch
18th | —— | Porcelain | Chrysoberyl, Cat’s Eye
19th | —— | Bronze |Aquamarine
20th | China | Platinum | Emerald
21st  | —— | Brass, Nickel | Iolite
22nd | —— | Copper | Spinet
23rd | —— | Silver plate | Imperial Topaz
24th | —— | Musical instruments | Tanzanite
25th | Silver | Sterling Silver | Silver Jubilee
26th | —— | Pictures | —– |
27th | —— | Sculpture | —– |                                                                            
28th | —— | Orchids |
29th | —— | New furniture | —– |
30th | Pearl | Diamond | Pearl Jubilee
31st |—— | Timepieces | —– |
32nd | —— | Transportation | —– |
33rd | —— | Amethyst | Amethyst
34th  |—— | Opal | Opal
35th | Coral | Jade | Emerald
36th | —— | Bone China | —– |
37th|  ——| Alabaster | —– |
38th |—— | Beryl, Tourmaline | Beryl
39th | —— | Lace | —– |
40th | Ruby | Garnet | Ruby Jubilee
41st | —— | Land | —– |
42nd |—— | Improved real estate | —– |
43rd |—— | Travel | —– |
44th | —— | Groceries | Gourmet
45th | Sapphire | Sapphire | Cat’s Eye                                                             
46th | —– | Poetry | —– |
47th | —— | Books | —– |
48th |——| Optical Goods | —– |
49th | —— | Luxuries | —– |
50th | Gold | Gold | Golden Jubilee
55th | Emerald | Emerald, Turquoise | Alexandrite
60th | Diamond | Gold, Diamond | Diamond Jubilee                           
65th | Diamond | Gold | Blue Spinet                                                                 
70th | Diamond | Gold | Sapphire Jublilee                                                   
75th | Platinum | Diamondlike stones, Gold
80th | ——| Diamond | Ruby Jubilee
85th | ——| Diamond| Sapphire
90th | ——| Diamond | Emerald
95th | ——| Diamond | Ruby
100th | ——| 10-carat Diamond

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